This morning I found myself involved in a heated debate on social media. It began with someone stating their anger about the high school gates being closed to traffic this morning, no notice, just a large amount of traffic turning into the school with a locked gate and having to turn in a small space , I’ll let you imagine the scene for yourselves.
This post started a debate on children of high school age being taken/collected from school. Now, I have two daughters, aged eleven and fifteen are at high school, the youngest only started 3 weeks ago. Three days a week, they walk home from school and the other days they are taken to school and collected. We live almost two miles from their school and we are just outwith the catchment area for the school bus. However, there is a public bus they could get.
I have always worked my jobs around about being able to take and collect the girls from school, in fact, it’s one of the main reasons I am self-employed. I enjoy dropping them off at school, telling them to have a good day and feeling that reassurance that they are getting there safely. I also feel any issues that they are having in school would most likely be brought up in this car journey. I do drop them off at the train station closest to the school to avoid the school congestion, though (apart from the occasional morning where we might be running late).
The suggestion from this other person was that children of high school age, that get taken or collected from school means they are mollycoddled and the apron strings should be untied (she also suggested that these parents need some serious lessons on life and parenting, but I’ll let that slide for now). What a harsh statement to make. My children are not mollycoddled in the slightest, nor are they spoon fed. They get themselves up every morning, in fact, they are awake, washed, dressed and fed before I’m out of bed and are responsible for their own pets, their own bedrooms and their own money. I’m not saying that they are great with these responsibilities yet, but they are being taught how to be responsible and stand on their own two feet.
Some parents may decide once high school days are here that they are no longer responsible for the school run and that’s alright too because, just like in a lot of aspects of parenting, we all do it differently. We all have the same aim to bring our children into adulthood with confidence, respect and love. How we get them there is entirely up to us, their parents.
I apologise for the rant tonight, this person just really rattled my cage. I’d be interested in other parents views on this subject, so feel free to leave a comment.
Love, Tammy x